What should I wear to the lesbian bar?

3 Tips to Start Conversations, Get Approached, Get Laid, & Meet Wifey

Approaching strangers is never easy. It’s even harder when you’re more than a little interested in the cute girl across the room who may or may not be making eye contact with you (and you really don't want to be met with rejection!).

We're wlw; we go out, looking to have serendipitous little gay things happen to us—but we’re scared to make other women uncomfortable, we’re concerned about interpreting signals wrong, we never know what exactly that eye contact means, and we’re wondering, "is she here to meet girls or just hang out with her friends?"

 

It's agonizing, it's demoralizing, and it feels like, "damn, I went out, only to miss out on talking to that cute girl... again."

Worry no longer!

We have 3 tips on what you can wear to the queer bar that will help you to move past nights of regretful eye contact, and instead spark exciting conversations with cute girls—with greater comfort and confidence.

 

Option 1: Wear Statement Pieces

Fun earrings, colorful clothes, spunky sunglasses, funky jewelry. Wearing adventurous, head-turning, and unique clothing invites intrigue and compliments, and gives others an easy opening to start a conversation with you!

Option 2: Queer Flag - Subtly

Thumb rings. Carabiners. Rolled up jeans. Flannels. The-like. Confirm to anyone who may be questioning your queerness, "yes, I am here, and I am indeed very queer" by speaking the community apparel "language," if you will.

Lucky for you, we’ve also compiled a full list of everything you can wear to subtly queer flag here.

 

Option 3: Queer Flag - Explicitly

Not only are you here and queer — you're looking to meet someone. How exactly do you communicate that without writing "SINGLE" across your forehead?! And what if you're shy and don't want to make the first move?

Not to brag, but we think we have just the solution:

We've been there!!! And that’s why we designed this crop top – so you can make it comfortably explicit – you’re here to meet queer people (and maybe do a little more than that)!

Wearing this design sends the message that you’re approachable, flirtatious, single, and confirms, "yes, my eye contact does mean something – come and get me!"

 

Conclusion:

We recommend doing all of these things in whichever flavor and combination feels like you! The more signals, flags, and opportunities that you present to others to have reason to approach you and start a conversation, the better.

Let us know how this advice works for you at the lesbian bar. What little gay things transpired as a result of your statement pieces and flagging? We wish you many gay conversations and kisses. Happy queerbaiting!

 

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